Please answer the following question.
How many times have you avoided having sex with women you liked, just because you wasn’t sure if you will be able to get an erection?
Please, pay attention!
I didn’t ask how many times you failed to get an erection, i asked how many times you avoided sex at all…
And how many women in your life you decided not to pursue, because you wasn’t sure if you can get it up?
If you suffer from Sexual Performance Anxiety, then it is probably A LOT of women.
In fact, millions of men self-sabotage their relationship with women due to Sexual Performance Anxiety. And you are about to learn WHY.
Problems begin when a man tries to make a woman to like him. These days a lot of men try to be liked by women on one side, and on another side they are afraid to lose value in their eyes.
The need to be liked by a woman may not be so obvious to a man himself. It may be deeply hidden inside his emotions.
It is even possible that a guy with sexual performance anxiety is very popular among women. He may be enjoying a company of many beautiful women, but when it comes to sex, his deep internal need to be liked shows up in a form of sexual performance anxiety. In other words, he is afraid that if he “fails” in bed, he will lose his value in a woman’s eyes.
When a man wants to be liked by a woman, he usually feels himself as “not good enough” in general, and he acts with women from a sense of fear.A man may try to hide many of his fears and insecurities, but when it comes to sex, you cannot hide anything, you either have sex or you don’t.
The Fear of losing value in a woman’s eyes leads to another Fear. The Fear of not being able to get an erection.
Unfortunately a lot of men give up to this fear, and they do it without really admitting it to themselves. If the person had an opportunity to have sex with a woman he liked, but backed off due to performance anxiety, it means that he gave up due to his fear.
He didn’t even try to have sex.
And what if this happens with another woman, and another woman and then another woman. And he is still afraid to bring relationship to bed because he is not sure if he can get an erection. These men have a need to be liked by a woman that is so strong, that they are ready to avoid sex at all…, They choose to avoid sex, rather than have even the slightest risk of losing value in a woman’s eyes.
Other men may have a milder form of performance anxiety. They do get in bed with women they date, although they lack sexual confidence and keep worrying about the performance.
Sometimes they can’t get an erection, sometimes they do get it, but lose it before penetration; and sometimes they manage to get an erection and finish the intercourse.
But the anxiety is present at all times and sex becomes more of a stressful event, a test that a man needs to “pass”, rather than a pleasurable experience that he should be looking forward to have.
Sexual performance anxiety turns into a type of emotional slavery. Just like a person who is addicted to drugs is enslaved by them, same way a person with sexual anxiety is enslaved by the need to be liked by a woman. Just like a person who is addicted to drugs is scared he may not be able to get another dose, same way a person with performance anxiety is afraid he may not be able to perform well and a woman will stop liking him. In both cases there is a certain need inside of a person that he wants to be fulfilled. And a person is scared he won’t be able to fulfill it.
The mistake many men make is that they try to fight performance anxiety. They ask themselves a question: “what if i can’t get it up?” and then they constantly think about it, they think of ways to get an erection despite of this fear, imagining in their head how they are going to have sex, how they are going to get it up. But by doing all that, they only increase the anxiety. It is the same as if a drug addict would want to stop his addiction, but instead would worry what he needs to do to get another dose of drugs.
In order to really cure yourself from performance anxiety, we don’t need to find an answer to “what if i can’t get it up?”. The problem is not in the lack of answer or in the lack of certainty, the problem is in the question itself. The real solution is not finding the answer, the real solution is not asking a question. When you will have sex without such question popping up in your mind, then you can say you are cured from performance anxiety. And the questions will stop when you do not have a need to be liked by a woman.
Then you will have sex without any stress, nothing will prevent you from getting a strong erection, and sex will finally be an enjoyable experience and not some kind of a test that you need to “pass”
My name is Leon Miklai, and my aim is to help men get out of this slavery, out of need to be liked by a woman. By doing that a man will gain back his sexual confidence and his emotional independence.
Today i want to present you my new ebook. It’s called Sexual Performance Anxiety:How Desire To Be Liked Is Leading Men Towards Psychological Erectile Dysfunction.
The most part of this ebook is talking about how to get from “slavery” to “freedom”. Being free meaning you no longer have performance anxiety, you have sex without “what if” questions popping up in your mind. But i have also written about how to get from freedom to power. Sex is good when you have no worries, but sex is great when you feel powerful.
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