“When we ended up in bed, i felt that i don’t want to have sex with her. I didn’t like her anymore. I felt that she is not a source of pleasure, she is more like an emotional obligation. I looked at her beautiful body and i didn’t see it sexually appealing at all, i just saw a naked human being.”
Sometimes, sexual performance anxiety may make you dislike the woman you are dating. If you see sex with this woman not as pleasure, but as some kind of a test, where you either pass or fail; when you see sex with this woman as a source of anxiety and fear, then you emotions starts devaluing this woman in your eyes, because it sees her as a reason for all your negative feelings and anxiety.
If not this woman, you wouldn’t feel an anxiety, and that makes you see her on a negative side. She becomes a source of bad emotions, fear, discomfort and disappointment. You slowly begin to despise her.
Your friends on another hand, can look at her and wonder, how come you still haven’t had sex with this hot woman.
yes i did
Yes and it’s so crazy, cos i have been a ladies choice all my life cos of the intense pleasure i give them but this one i felt i fell inlove with, Rly don’t understand what’s happening. I’v tried several times but it ends same way…
Right now I don’t even know what I feel for her anymore. I need help seriously, my ego, confidence and love is at stake.
Henry man I feel the same way met this girl back in August we went out had a couple drinks had sex and it was amazing and we been hanging out ever since. I really started liking her and she felt the same way but one time we went to have sex and I couldn’t get right and that’s when it all started. When we would have drinks in good but no drinks in all in my head like what if it happens again and it’s been giving me anxiety and I have no clue how to control it been trying so hard to control my thought but man it’s just not that easy and I really like this girl and I don’t want to lose her
I know exactly how u feel Henry it’s sad because I really like this girl and I found myself falling in love with her as well every time we go to have sex I get in my head and my heart starts to beat really fast and I get really anxious and I get erect but right before I put it in it goes soft 😩 And its interfering with my confidence as well and I’m not sure what I need to do