What do you want from a woman? (part1)

A key thing to understand for a man is what he wants from a woman. What is a woman for him in general? How does he look at her?

A man may go out with a woman, because he wants her attention. It makes him feel good that a woman likes him, that he has value in her eyes. And if the woman is very beautiful, it makes him feel even more fulfilled and desirable.

But, if he asked himself a question: “Do i want to have a real passionate sex with this woman? Do i want to fuck her?” , then he may realize that he doesn’t want it that much. He may be a normal healthy guy, he does get an erection when they are kissing or hugging, but he does not want to bring her home, take her cloth off, and just fuck her. And even the expression “fuck her” gives him a strange feeling.. it doesn’t resonate with his emotions, as if it is not really his thing.. And it may even sound as too aggressive, completely foreign to his current emotional feelings towards the woman.

You may say that it is obvious, the guys has Sexual Performance Anxiety and that is why the words “fuck her” do not resonate with him. He is not sure he can actually fuck her if he brings her home. But sometimes Sexual Performance Anxiety can be just a cover of a deeper problem, an internal emotional conflict. The conflict is between his natural animal desire to have sex and his emotional desire to get a woman’s attention, to get her to like him.  And these 2 desires are TOTALLY contradict each other.

So he brings her home because.. well.. he is “supposed to”.  It seems like it is part of the process, you date a woman and if everything goes well, you take her home to have sex. And if he can’t get an erection he thinks it is Sexual Performance Anxiety, when in fact he just didn’t really want to fuck her. Why? Because his purpose of dating this woman was to feel valuable and desirable, he wanted to be liked by her. That’s how he measured “success” at dating. And when he is trying to have sex with her, he does it not because he wants to have sex, not because he wants to see her naked, not because he wants to feel her body. He does it AGAIN, to make her to like him. Or he does because it is just part of the process.. time to have sex..

Many men look at a woman as someone who can give them attention, make them feel desirable. They stopped dating a woman because they want to possess her, to have her body, to fuck her.

That desire for her attention is enslaving men, it makes them weak, addicted. In that enslaved emotional state a man cannot ask himself what does HE really want. For that he must first gain his emotional freedom.