How Sexual Anxiety Disrupting Mind-Body Connection

Why is it, that a man that suffers from sexual performance anxiety, never fails to get an erection when he masturbates? When he masturbates, he feels absolutely confident in his ability to get erection. No doubts, no anxiety. Emotionally, he is totally in sync with his body.

But when that same man is with a woman, it is a different story. Now he gets performance anxiety. His mind and his emotions go out of sync. His mind is worried about the performance of the body – “Is it up yet?”.  His emotions don’t go along with the body, and his body doesn’t go along with his emotions.

Why does a presence of a woman causes a man to get unsynced with his body?

We all understand that a man wants to perform well and is afraid to be embarrassed in front of a woman. But is this fear so strong, that it can cause disturbance between a man’s emotions and his body? And what can we do to reinforce this connection so that no woman can cause this kind of disturbance?

When a man starts to doubt his ability to perform well sexually, in other words he gets scared,  it causes him to detach himself emotionally from his own body. Now he looks at his own body, and expects it to get an erection, as if it is not his body at all. And he also fears that the body may not get an erection, again, as if it is not his body.

Imagine you and your friend are walking in an unfamiliar neighborhood. And suddenly some local gang crosses your path and you get really scared. So you leave it to your friend to handle the situation. You stand aside from your friend, letting him do the talking, hoping he will handle the situation well, and feeling afraid that something might still get wrong. Basically, you are not supporting your friend in any way, you are absolutely detached from him. You only hope that he will do well, because you depend on him.

Same thing with performance anxiety. A sense of fear makes a man to emotionally detach himself from his body. We can say that he just betrays his body. A man wants his body to get an erection, and afraid it won’t be able to, because he depends on his body’s performance. But, he is too scared to take action along with his own body.

As we see, a sense of fear can cause a person not only stop being a good and supportive friend, it can even cause a person to give up control of his own body.

When your friend sees that you are scared and not supportive, this sense If anxiety translates to him as well. Same way a man’s sense of fear and emotional detachment translates to his body, and it is hard for it to get an erection.