Who do you ask to fulfill this guarantee? And if you create an erection yourself, then why do you need a guarantee?
If the erection isn’t made by you, then who makes it? Your body?
Then probably you need a guarantee from your body, from your penis, or from your mind?
So you are asking your body, or you penis, to create an erection when the time is right. You expect your penis to do that, you depend at it at that moment.
In that case, you are selling yourself to your body, to your penis, to your animal side. After that, what is your value as a Man, as individual, if you are selling yourself to an animal?
You are basically saying, that you are as a Man have no freedom, have no independence, you do not have your OWN WILL. You gave it up to the animal. He is your master, and you agreed to follow his will. If your dick will get up, then you are lucky, if no, then you are out of luck. You sold yourself, you sold your “I”.
Lets say you are planning to have sex. You had a performance anxiety, but somehow you still managed to get an erection , and while it was up, you quickly slipped it into a woman’s vagina. And somehow you managed to finish the intercourse without letting it go down. And then you say to yourself : “thank god it worked”. So, can you call yourself a Man because it worked? Was this a sex a real Man should have? Probably not. You fucked a woman physically(somehow), but you were fucked as well -only emotionally.
Why do i say you were fucked emotionally? Because your anxiety, your expectations, your desire for a guaranteed result made your emotional vessel so empty, so weak, that it was basically saying “please fulfill me, give me something that i want so much..” or “please fuck me, i need it so much”. And just because your body had mercy on you and gave you some kind of erection, it doesn’t mean you can call yourself a Man. Maybe just the opposite, by giving you this “mercy erection” it proved you, that you by yourself is not a true Man. And if you look at it that way, you getting an erection that time was worse, than if you didn’t get an erection.
A true man fucks a woman because he WANTS TO, with his full will, with 100% passion. He doesn’t fuck a woman because he got a “mercy erection”. And for the true man, it is better not to have sex, than to beg and wish for his body to give him a “mercy erection”.
If you are not homeless and have a job, you don’t go out on a street and ask people to spare you some change. Why not? Because that would devalue you as a person.
Same way if you are physically healthy man, you shouldn’t beg for “some erection”. Because that also devalues you as a man.
But many men do beg for erection, and the more they beg, the weaker they become.
And if you are not a healthy man, and have some physical problems, then you still shouldn’t beg for erection. In that case you should go to a doctor and get treatment. Same way when you lose a job, you don’t go out and beg for money, you just look for another job.
What if you understand that, but still have no strength to stop worrying about getting an erection? You may understand that it devalues you as a man, it weakens you, but you still can’t stop worrying about it, you still want the absolute guarantee that you will get an erection when the time is right.
How can a beggar can stop begging for money? He needs the money. He will stop begging only when the money he gets by begging will start burning his soul. In other words, – he will feel Shame asking money from others.
If you could feel Shame that you, a physically healthy Man, looking for guarantee for an erection, that Shame would make you stop looking for that guarantee. That will make you stop doubting whether you can get it up or no. You would say to yourself “i will have an erection when i want to have sex, and i don’t have to expect it like a blessing, i don’t have to worry about it. ”
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